I think anyone can benefit from some quiet time alone. But this is especially true for a mom. We are all running full speed from the time the sun comes up until we crash on the pillow very late at night. There is an admitted chaos in the day of every family. While this is normal, it’s also unfortunate since quieting the mind can be very beneficial.
In one of my favorite books, The Janitor, by Todd Hopkins and Ray Hilbert, the first chapter teaches that a burned-out brain won’t start. We’re in a state of constant reacting–to cries, phone calls, e-mails, dirty diapers, carpools and a blur of children’s TV in the background. We seem to define success as filling every moment with tasks and information. It’s no wonder so many moms feel overwhelmed.
We feel guilty for taking time to renew our own spirit. But if we did, we would have an entirely new energy to take on the world.
One of the best parts of my day is what I can a “Take 10”. No matter how hectic may day, I schedule quiet time for myself. I literally put on a timer and carve out 10 minutes. It’s during my moments of quiet that everything comes in to place. Solutions seem to rise to the surface. Peace comes over my body. And I renew my energy to keep up with the rest. When your day already feels packed, how do you find the time for this?
- Wake up earlier. I know you’re already sleep deprived, but an extra 20 to 30 minutes won’t really make a difference. Wake up before your family and sit with no technology–TV, radio, computer or phone and have a cup of tea. Do nothing but meditate on what you want to get out of your day.
- Take a bath. Nothing gives me instant relaxation like a bath. About once a week, I light some candles and dip into the tub after my kids go to bed. I do nothing but reflect. I feel better immediately.
- Go for a walk or run. My mind fills with ideas as I move in nature. A quiet walk or run will shed stress and tension even on the toughest day.
- Enjoy your drive. When going for a drive without kids in the car, turn everything off. That means no phone or radio. You’ll find that these moments of solitude can also bring great regeneration.
- Meditate. Make a small corner of your home your personal sanctuary for de-cluttering your mind. Maybe it includes a special pillow, blanket or candle. Find a few moments throughout the week to breathe and let your stresses float away. When you meditate, your thinking mind becomes quiet.
The bottom line is that you need to find a way to bring peace into your life and your family. It’s when you feel like you don’t have any time that you need a break the most. You’ll be astounded at the progress you’ll make with a little bit of “mom-me” time.
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