What if I told you much of what you hear about parenting is not true? What if I told you the color of one’s skin, race, creed or national origin has no predictive value on their potential to be a good parent?
What if I told you that neither gender, class, nor socio-economic status guarantee that one is more or less likely to be a successful parent? Would you believe me or would you keep focusing on the clutter?
Eliminating The Clutter
The clutter is the media and social pundits who imply that successful parents have the same external characteristics. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Successful parents come in all sizes and colors. Successful parents are both rich and poor. Successful parents are both white collar and blue collar, college educated and graduates of the school of hard knocks.
Albeit, after refuting the statement that all successful parents look alike, I must concede that most falsehoods contain some truth.
The Truth Shall Set You Free
The truth is that successful parents share many of the same traits. However, these commonalities are internal characteristics that are completely undetectable from simply looking at someone. Yet if you watch closely, listen to what parents say and observe what they do, you’ll find that most successful parents do many of the same things:
- Preparation – Successful parents arrange their lives in advance. Successful parents organize everything within their power so that they may give their children the best chance to fulfill their potential. Successful parents parent intentionally.
- Goal Setting – Successful parents set S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-bound) goals for their children. Successful parents leave as little to chance as possible. Successful parents don’t simply set high expectations for their children, they establish a process for turning dreams into realities.
- No Shortcuts – Successful parents don’t look for shortcuts. Successful parents raise children who understand the importance of following directions and taking the most efficient route. Life is a process and children who understand this have a head start in life.
- No Excuses – Successful parents don’t make excuses. Successful parents keep their word. Short of an unavoidable emergency, a child learns from their parent that one’s word is their bond. Successful parents embrace the motto “if it’s going to be, it’s up to me”.
- Devotion – Successful parents devote themselves unconditionally to providing for the life they created. Successful parents also devote themselves to living in the moment. Successful parents live and love their children purposely, as if tomorrow is not promised.
The truth is, anyone can be a successful parent. All it requires is that you commit yourself to living, breathing, and doing these five things each and every day. I promise, no matter what your background, if you do these things, you will be a successful parent! Are you up to the task?
What do you think? Were you aware of the truth about successful parents? How can you now put into action the things that successful parents do? Share your thoughts and experiences below.
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