Dr. Greene’s Answer:
There is crucial information your daughter needs to know about precocious puberty.
First, some background: The age of onset of puberty varies widely. In girls, the breast bud is usually the first sign, and is seen on average at 10-11 years. Pubic hair usually begins to appear 6-12 months later. Next comes the pubertal growth spurt. Lastly, menstruation begins (called menarche), on average, 2-2.5 years after the onset of puberty. The mean age for a girl’s first period is 12.75 years. Wide variations are seen in the sequence and timing of these events, but peak growth velocity (fastest growth rate) always precedes menarche.
For boys, the testes and scrotum begin to enlarge first, usually at about 10 to 13 years. A few months later, pubic hair develops (facial hair comes about 2 years later). The pubertal growth spurt usually follows about 6 months after pubic hair. Lastly, the penis grows longer about 1 year after the testes grow, and is accompanied by changes in the voice.
Precocious puberty is defined as the onset of true puberty before 7 to 8 years of age in girls or 9 years of age in boys. (Isolated breast development which doesn’t progress to the rest of puberty is called premature thelarche, and is a different, benign condition). Precocious puberty is 10 times more common in girls than in boys. Sexual development may begin at any age. Pregnancy has been reported as early as 5 1/2 years old.
Most precocious puberty is simply early maturation. Nevertheless, the Lawson Wilkins Pediatric Endocrine Society recommends evaluating for an underlying medical condition in Caucasian-American girls who have development of breast and/or pubic hair before age seven and in African-American girls before age six (Kaplowitz and Oberfield, Pediatrics 1999 Oct;104(4 Pt 1):936-41). These medical conditions include ovarian cysts, thyroid problems, McCune-Albright syndrome, central nervous system disorders, or external sources of estrogen. In girls over age 6, these other causes are quite rare, but should at least be considered by your pediatrician.
Your friends have suggested that bovine growth hormone is the cause of your daughter’s precocious puberty. I strongly doubt that. The only external compounds clearly implicated in girls’ early puberty are estrogens. Moreover, when human growth hormone is intentionally given to children to increase their heights, in doses far higher than your daughter could accidentally consume, precocious puberty has not been a problem. Your friends are right to be concerned about the chemicals used by agribusiness, but from bovine growth hormone I would be more concerned about cancer.
Early maturation in girls is categorized in two main types: rapidly progressive and slowly progressive. Most girls who begin puberty early (especially those who begin before age 6) have the rapidly progressive variety. They go through each of the stages (including closure of the growth plates of the bones) at a very rapid pace, and thus lose much of their adult height potential. About 1/3 of these girls will end up shorter than the 5th percentile of adult height. Many girls, however (particularly those beginning puberty after their 7th birthdays), will start puberty early, but still go through each of the stages at a more typical pace. While their “adolescent” growth spurts are over early, they will continue to grow until their bones reach final maturity at about age 16.
Now for the crucial information: The earlier before age 12 a girl starts her period, the higher her lifetime risk for breast cancer (probably from the prolonged estrogen exposure). The highest average risk for breast cancer is in non-Hispanic white women, where it is 1 in 8, or 12.5%. In all girls who start their periods before the age of 12, taken together, the risk is 16.25%. As she reaches maturity, she needs to be made aware of controllable risk factors for breast cancer, such as use of estrogen-containing birth control pills (10 years of use would raise her risk to about 22%), first pregnancy after age 30 (if she did this also, it would raise the risk to about 35%), high-fat diet, alcohol use, fertility drugs, pesticides, and radiation exposure. Each of these factors multiplies her accumulated risk. If she is aware of these, she can make informed decisions for herself.
She can also learn what can reduce her risks. During adolescence, it is vital to teach her the habit of regular breast self-exam. If she has a child, breastfeeding will lower her risk. Strenuous exercise (particularly before the first baby), such as running, gymnastics, and ballet have all been shown to reduce estrogen exposure and thus reduce risk. Diet seems to be more important in the development of breast cancer than any other single risk factor. A low-fat diet, high in natural sources of vitamins A, C, E and zinc, is protective. Vegetables seem to be protective for other reasons as well, which is why the National Cancer Institute has come out with their “five a day” plan (which sounds hard, but is not so bad when you see what they call a “serving” — one carrot is a serving). A healthy diet is also one low in pesticides (wash fruits and vegetables thoroughly and/or use organically grown foods). It should also be low in artificial hormones, like those found in beef in the U.S. (your friends are friends indeed).
Although your daughter is still emotionally and mentally a nine-year-old, she now has the hormones of an adolescent. She undoubtedly feels a range of emotions that are difficult for her to cope with. As a parent, it is very important for you to carefully watch and listen to her. Help her put her feelings into words, and be careful not to make judgmental comments. She will probably express many diametrically opposed emotions in the same sentence and then feel confused about what she just said. This is normal.
One of the most difficult things she is facing is finding a peer group. She no longer entirely fits in with her nine-year-old friends, but it would be a big mistake for her to develop a peer group that is much older than she is (even if they would accept her). She needs people to help her bridge the gap between being a little girl and a woman. As a parent, this is an important time for you to be involved in the daily activities of her life. It may seem like a challenge to get excited about the things that she is interested in, but there is no one better equipped to help her through this difficult time than you.
Shania
I’ve got my period, so I’m not talking about that. It’s my little sister. She’s 10 and chubby, wears a 34A bra has armpit hair and pubic hair but she has no idea what a period is!
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Tania
hey I am 11 years old, and my problem is that I have my period twice .
what does that mean, I am so worried right now please HELP ME
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Cheryl Greene
Hi Tania,
I don’t know what you mean by, “I have my period twice”. Do you mean twice in one 28 day time frame? Or you’ve had it two different months? Or that it’s twice as long as you think it should be? Please elaborate.
Best, @MsGreene
Note: I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, but I am not Dr. Greene and I am not a doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Lola
Am 12 and my boobs are normal but am just worried about my period, I haven’t started yet,
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Cheryl Greene
Hi Lola,
Thanks for writing in.
Please take a look at the chart on this page –> Puberty Stage: Where am I in the process of becoming an adult?
Please let us know if you still have any questions.
I hope that helps.
Best, @MsGreene
Note: I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, but I am not Dr. Greene and I am not a doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Basmattie
How long is too long for a 9.9 yrs old menstrual cycle suppose to last.
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Cheryl Greene
Basmattie,
When menstrual cycles begin they are often irregular. Some times short, some times long, and a variable number of days with bleeding. This typically evens out after a girl has been having her periods for about two years.
How long hs your menstrual cycle been?
Best, @MsGreene
Note: I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, but I am not Dr. Greene and I am not a doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Anonymous
Hi I will not say my name but I am 12
I am around 5″2 and not overweight. My sister got her period at 12 and wears a bra and my mom got hers at 14 but had no trouble with bras. I have not gotten my period yet and I actually haven’t even gotten my discharge I can’t even wear a bra. But I am somewhat glad I haven’t as I am really scared of getting it and I don’t even like training bras to be honest! I dont know if this is normal so please help me
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Cheryl Greene
Hi!
Thanks for writing in. Dr. Greene provided the information you’re looking for in a different post called Puberty Stage: Where am I in the process of becoming an adult? You can look there for specifics, but the short answer is, there is a wide range of “normal” when it comes to puberty. It can be normal for girls to start puberty younger than you are and older than you are. The wide variability is part of what makes each of us uniquely human. That said, if you have other reasons to think there are issues, it’s okay to talk to your doctor about your concerns.
I hope that helps.
Best, @MsGreene
Note: I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, but I am not Dr. Greene and I am not a doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Siena
Hey it’s siena, I just had a quick question, I started my period a couple months ago and I have a very light period, what pad do u recommend?
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Ved
Is it normal to get your first period a few days before you turn 10? I have had discharge since I was nine and have a heavy flow. My mom got her period on her 9th birthday but isn’t 10 still a bit too early?
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Cheryl Greene
Ved,
Yes, ten feels very young, but it’s becoming more and more common. In fact, it is considered normal for a girl to have her first period any time after her 10th birthday and before her 15th birthday.
I hope that helps.
Best, @MsGreene
Note: I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, but I am not Dr. Greene and I am not a doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Siena
Hi I’m Siena, I got my first period two months ago and I’m nine, my period is very light and only lasted for two to one days, is this normal for the begging of puberty/menastration? If it’s ok I am going to tell the story of my first period👍🏻So one day I was at my friends house (there were seven of us) and I had to go to the bathroom this was in the morning and I went pee bet when I looked down there was blood! At that time I had a friend there that had already gotten her period she is ten, I went to the stairs and yelled “HAYDEN*(that’s her name) she came running up with one of my other friends (she had not gotten her period) I said “I think I got my period) she was like ohhhhh my” we looked in my underwear and we saw blood I had to go to one of my friends mom and ask for a pad! (SO AKWARD) so then I called my mom (at the time my mom was not in our state ) I told her and yea, so I told my dad to come but he was in a meeting, I was there lying in my friends bed crying, and to top it all of they went in the pool, I could not go in. So that’s my story👍🏻 Thanks please respond bye!
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Lenni Doyel
I was 10. I was at my friend’s house, too. They were all going to the pool. It is awkward. Sorry you had to go through that.
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Siena
Aww thanks for replying, bye
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Ruby
Hello, I’m Ruby. I am 12 years old and i just started my first period around 1 and a half months ago. It lasted for about 5 days. I was all ready for it,i kept pads in my bag, talked to my mom about it etc. But getting it is not what i’m worried about, it’s the fact that i’ve missed this months cycle. I know im not pregnant (again, im 12) and i dont know whats wrong with me! I’ve had white discharge for a long time since my first period but i’ve had it constantly everyday for the last month or so- and it smells down there even though i clean it thoroughly every day. I’m quite worried and i really want someone to reply.
Thank you
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Lenni Doyel
It’s not unusual for periods to be irregular in the beginning. I wouldn’t worry about that. I don’t know what to tell you about the white discharge and smell. Have you talked to your mom?
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Cat Holmes
White discharge is also normal. Don’t worry about it, but you should probably talk to your mom anyway. If you are very active, underweight, or overweight, that increases likelihood of missing periods, but some people just miss them without any noticeable factors. Also, stress can cause delayed or missing periods- so stressing about your period really might make you miss it.
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Hailey Tom
My breasts started to grow when I’m 8 years old and I started my period at the age of 10. After that, my breast didn’t grow anymore. It doesn’t even reach the size of 32a cup. Is there a chance that my breasts will be bigger?
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Cat Holmes
I don’t know your age or weight, but the answer is yes, regardless. Your breasts grow well into your teen years and even early twenties, and if you’re very thin, they’ll likely grow if you put on a bit more weight at any age- which you don’t have to do so long as you are in a healthy weight range. Later in life, some women also have permanently larger breasts after pregnancy. Really, nothing to worry about.
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Londyn
I have had discharge for 6-7 months and i have had breasts for 2-3 years and i am a 36 a cup bra and 9 years old . I just turned nine 9 days ago which was on the 10th . My mom got her period at nine , my sister got her’s at nine , am i next ? I started puberty around the end of 7 years old . I had armpit hair and pubic hair at 8 . I was always taller than everybody even in pre-k and kindergarten and now I am in third grade i am taller than everybody , sometimes I have to look down at people . I am almost 5’2 . Most of my friends in my class says i stuff my bra because i am more developed. I just don’t fit in at my school compared to my friends . When people bump me i literally want to cry . So please somebody reply to me .
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Cheryl Greene
Hi Londyn,
I got my period at 10. I’m now old enough to be a grandmother, so that was a long time ago. Back then, that was very young. Sadly, now 10 is normal. When it happened to me, I didn’t know what was going on. I was “too young” for sex and development education. There weren’t even feminine hygiene products in my bathroom at school.
Even though I was older than you are, I can relate and I’m really sorry for what you’re going through. You are too young and it’s not fair that your classmates don’t understand. I hope you can talk to your mother or a teacher or the school nurse.
One tip, you may want to ask your mom for a pad you can put at the bottom of your backpack in case you have your first period at school.
My heart goes out to you!
@MsGreene
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Siena
I bet u will if u are already an a cup and ur mom and sister got it at nine, I am nine too and got it two months ago, I think u should be prepared and get a small bag with pads, and a change of underwear.-Siena
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Selly
I’m 11 I’m going to be 12 in may I have armpit hair and public hair have discharge and my mom is over 52 who should i tell please help
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Cheryl Greene
Hi Selly,
At 11, puberty is not considered precocious (or early). Here is a link to the Stages of Puberty.
If possible, talk to your mom. She’s been through this and can help you with your questions. If that’s not possible, talk to a school nurse or a female teacher.
I hope that helps.
Best, @MsGreene
Note: I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, but I am not Dr. Greene and I am not a doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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baked potato
Going through puberty at age eleven is perfectly normal, I got my first period at 11. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your mother, maybe talk to a close friend who is starting puberty instead. It’s best to tell your mother though, she will help you!
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Starzya
I was 9 years old when I first got my period, by the age of 12 I was a C-D cup in Bras, by time I started high school at the age of 13 I was a DD cup in Bras. I am now 15 years of age I am a G cup size breast, with a period that comes every 2 weeks, and my flow is very heavy. For the past year and a half I have been experiencing some problems with bad ovary pains which keep me up most nights. October last year I was rushed to the hospital as they thought that my appendix had exploded but it wasn’t that my Right ovary was inflamed. After I went home nothing was further done about it. In the past 4 months I have been going to doctors and gynaecologist appointments. They are looking for endometriosis or polycystic ovary. My Gynaecologist is positive that it is polycystic ovary, I am currently waiting for all my blood test results and the results from my ultrasound, if the results are negative for both endometriosis and polycystic ovary then it means I will have to be operated on. As A young child I went through very traumatic things with my family which I don’t know if that will change the effects. Do you have any ideas?
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Cat Holmes
All I can say is that a quick google search showed some things linking stress to polycystic ovary as a possible cause. I haven’t researched it thoroughly. I also see having polycystic ovary can cause more stress. Mostly, I just wanted to reply and say that I was sending best wishes.
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Amanda
My daughter’s sister from different mum diagnosed with precious puberty. my daughter is 6 month old and she is 95% for weight and hight on growth chart. Do I have to worried? Is there any genetics test?
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Belinda
Hi Dr. Greene, I am concerned. My daughter received spotting 2 days ago. She is 9 years old, tall for her age and very slim. Her breasts havent even started to develop yet. Since 2 days ago, she had a bit of spotting yesterday and a small amount today. It doesnt even require her changing the pad as it is so little and you can barely even tell that there is much on the pad. I took her to her pediatrician. He said it is unusual because she has no breast tissue development. The pediatrican ordered an ultra sound and blood work. Do I have anything to be concerned about?
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Siena
I don’t know if this will help I or not but I will try. I’m Siena, I’m nine and I got my period two months ago, I was not expecting it because I only just got Brest buds, maybe some girls get there periods with less development then most, did she have discharge before she got the spotting, if so it could just be a sign of her period, I hope I helped u a little at least, bye!
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Narda
My daughter have her first period last September and she is 12 years old. its been 5 months she have no period. is this normal and what is the cause of this?
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Jo Stivers
I started my period when I was 6 months old. I am now 64. I of course grew very quickly; would have been able to conceive by the time I was 5. my highest height was 4’11. I think I’ve shrunk a little. I have one child. I developed thyroid cancer in my 30’s, total thyroidectomy and radiation treatments, early menopause. No signs of any other cancer.
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Lauren
Hi, Is this normal?
-I have had Pubic Hair since age 6
-I have had breasts since 8
– I started my period when I was 9
-I am 11 years old and 5’3
-I wear a 40B sized bra
My mom tells me I’m fine and that I am just a really fast grower but, I am scared and, I want a doctors opinion.. I mean it, I’m scared
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Cat Holmes
It’s not unusual for girls to start at that age, especially heavier girls, because higher fat content means higher estrogen. However, be very careful with your diet and weight and making changes.
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Tulay Oguz
Hello
My daughter is 9 years old and started spotting 6 months ago. Her breast getting litter bigger and very hard. She is 146 inches and 78 pounds. Endocrinology saw her and he wants her to star implant injection to stop her having periods. She had bacterial meningitis at the age of 2 months old. Endo says this is whyshe stared her periods.
If we do not do anything what will happend and if decide to go with the trearment what are the side effects?
I would like to your opinion. Thank you for your time.
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Alina
I am almost 10 years old my Doctor said I will start puberty by the time I am 10 my 10th birthday is in 1 month and I still have not got it.I only have hair in the pubic area and need deodorant.I have no hair in my armpits and no breast development at all.Is it normal for puberty to come later than your doctor says it will come?Little worried about it.
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Lori Rustin
Hey Alina!
Ten is not late to start puberty. I think on average it’s like 10 to 15 years old. So I don’t think you have anything to worry about, but I’m not a doctor ;)
IMHO.
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Alina
Than you Lori.
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Jaidyn
Yes I thought the same I started puberty at 11.5 years and now I’m 12 an I have noticed a few changes like pit hair and pubic hair ok it will happen when the time is right
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Lynnette Gakui
Hi my name is lynnette i have a daughter how is 10 years old she started to developing around 2 and half years ago. And still has not start her period. But she also a spacial needs child. She has cp she have epilepsy she has fluid on her brain. She dose have brain damage as well. My question is can this delay her period. I was once was told by dr that her brain did not developed the part that controls your period. I have so many questions. She all ready a 32 a.
I have endometriosis it runs in my family my mother my grandmother auntie cousins have it. I also ovarian cancer that runs in my family. Ovarian cyst as well.
When i started my period at 12 it took my life away from me. I did have a normal periods i bleed for 3 months from the day i started. And i stop for 2 weeks. I’m really scared for my oldest. I also have two other children. Any kind of help would be nice
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Rachell Hunt
Hi I have 2 daughters ages 12 and 10. My 12 yr old started her period back in November. Everything was right on track. My question is with my 10 yr old. She has also started hers this past week for the first time. She has developed quite fast over the last 2 years. She was born premie. Is this normal for siblings to start almost back to back?
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N Jenk
This exact same thing happened with my sister and I. I was 13 1/2 when I started. My sister started a few weeks later when she was 11. No idea if this is common/normal but thought you would like to know that they aren’t the only ones.
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Siena
Hi I did not have the same case but kind of similar, I have had my period for two months now, but my twelve year old sister still has not gotten hers,
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Caroline
Hey all concerned parents out there!
I’m here to ease your worries just a little bit. This will be a long read! (Sorry!)
I am not a medical professional, but I can share my experience (+advice for parents) from the point of view of the *child* that has undergone precocious puberty.
I period began at age 8 (I am 23 now), and there was a lot of unseen/unnoticed development before that: breast development at 5/6 years old, pubic hair at 6/7, etc. If you are noticing these things in your daughter at this time, GOOD! You have a head start. You’re paying attention. What made me nervous when I was a child was that my PARENTS were very worried – like it came out of left field for them. By noticing these changes, you can begin to prepare your child and yourself.
Most schools have “puberty talks” but these come later (grades 5+). Start talking to her about body changes, breast development, body hair, and of course, periods. Show her how to stick a pad onto her undies – I know this might be awkward, but PLEASE do it. Normalize it. You don’t want her thinking she is a “freak” or “weird.” She will need to use this information sooner than later.
Find a pediatrician that you like and trust. (Preferably a female? I mean, you’re just a little girl, but a ‘boy doctor’ might still be ‘icky’ to you!)
Be ready for her to complain about being teased by school mates, and be ready to support her. I didn’t experience much; I was jokingly called “Tissue!” because some of the girls thought I would stuff my training bra with tissue.
As for HEIGHT and INJECTIONS/ HORMONAL shots:
My mother is 4”11, and my pediatrician told her, “If you don’t put your child on these shots, she won’t even reach your height.” (dun dun DUN)
I was put on a hormonal shot for a few years (3 or 4?) – I don’t remember the details of the medication, name, brand… that info flies over your head when you’re a kid. :) It was an intramuscular injection that was administered every three weeks into my thigh. One thing I remember was that the injection spot would be sore for 2-3 days. I wouldn’t be as active or running around those days. The soreness was normal according to my doc. My mother used to allow me to stay home from school the day after the shot, which was very kind of her!
(As for my height now; I am 5’3, still short, but I have outgrown my mother [which was the goal of the shots], and am just a few inches shorter than my father -just about where I should be)
In retrospect, I realize that my parents support made all the difference in this experience. They were scared, so was I! But we went into it together.
To sum up:
-If you’re noticing precocious changes, good [that you’re noticing]! Begin preparing yourself and your daughter!
-Find a pediatrician and start talking to them right away
-Talk to her about puberty and periods. Normalize it.
-Teach her how to put a pad on.
-The hormonal shots will hurt a little, but DO make a difference in end height
-Just be there for her!
She’s still your little girl. A little bit of blood isn’t going to change her adorable smile or the fact that she is still going to wake up at 8am on Sunday to watch her favorite cartoon, or the fact that she hates broccoli (unless it is covered in cheese sauce…)
Trust your doctors and pediatricians. It will be okay!!
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Danae
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing this with us parents. Today is the event of my little princess story n I. Thanks to you I know exactly how to help, support and understand her in every way! God bless you!
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Maria
My little cousin has pubic hair and she’s 6 years old my aunt wondering what’s happening?
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Alexandra Carmichael
Hi Maria,
Thanks so much for writing in! Girls develop at different rates, and every girl is unique.
You could show this to your aunt. Dr. Greene says, “Most precocious puberty is simply early maturation. Nevertheless, the Lawson Wilkins Pediatric Endocrine Society recommends evaluating for an underlying medical condition in Caucasian-American girls who have development of breast and/or pubic hair before age seven and in African-American girls before age six (Kaplowitz and Oberfield, Pediatrics 1999 Oct;104(4 Pt 1):936-41). These medical conditions include ovarian cysts, thyroid problems, McCune-Albright syndrome, central nervous system disorders, or external sources of estrogen. In girls over age 6, these other causes are quite rare, but should at least be considered by your pediatrician.”
Hope that helps! Wishing you and your cousin all the best.
Alexandra (caring helper at drgreene.com, not a doctor)
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Rita
It can be early puberty when I was 6 my breast started growing . When my mom has taken to doc . Doc said it is early puberty and you have to get hormonal shots.
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Rita
Wish you all the best Maria.
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Alina
It could be precocious puberty.
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Jacqueline
Hi i have a daughter who is 9 years old and shes been saying she has pain in her ovaries is there a possibility of her getting her period at an early age?
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Alexandra Carmichael
Hi Jacqueline,
Thanks so much for writing in! As Dr. Greene says, some girls do get their periods earlier than others. If your daughter is in pain, it’s probably wise to go see your doctor.
Hope that helps!
Alexandra (caring helper at drgreene.com, not a doctor)
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Nicole mcmahon
Hi , I’m Nicole and I started my period when I was 10 about a week away from my 11th birthday my period started at school but when I was 9 I started getting hair … I am currently 11 now about to turn 12 I am having chest pains and I’m pretty short compared to my friends I’m around 4’9 and around 94 pounds .they pick on my height but I try to ignore it . Now is the age I started my period at normal for my age my leg hair grows so much around every 2 – 3 days my legs look like puppy’s legs because there short , fat and hairy is all this normal for me . I worry because I’ve read articles about puberty starting at 10 and it says girls usually end up with breast cancer and it scares me . Please reply back I’ve been very worried about my period lately .
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Anya Pielak
Do not be worried. Think of happy thoughts
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irene white
my great grandaughter is 6 years old about six months ago she started to develop breasts the doctor said it was just fat bu 2 days ago she started vaginal bleeding
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Cheryl Greene
Irene,
I’m so sorry. How very upsetting.
It’s time to take her back to the doctor. If he or she can’t help, ask for a referral to an endocrinologist who has dealt with precocious puberty.
I hope that helps.
Best, @MsGreene
Note: I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, but I am not Dr. Greene and I am not a doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Caitlyn
My sister got big Boobs at age 12, I am 14 and i started my Puberty at age 12, how come mine isnt Growing. I hate having no boobs.
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Siena
Hi Caitlyn, I read ur comment and I think u should know that all girls (including siblings) grow at different times and are different sizes, have u gottin ur period if not once u do they might grow more, i hope u are soon satisfying with ur body, bye!
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Caitlyn reid
Hi, I started my period at age 12 and I’m now 16. I’m still the same size as before. Is there something I’m doing wrong?
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Cheryl Greene
Hi Caitlyn,
Thanks for writing in.
When you say, “I’m still the same size”, do you mean the same height or that you have not developed an adult body?
Best, @MsGreene
Note: I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, but I am not Dr. Greene and I am not a doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Carmen
My daughter is 9 years old she started her first menstrual period about two weeks ago. And again today. I’m worried not only because she’s so young but to have it twice in a month?please advice
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Siena
Hi, I’m Siena I am also nine the same age as ur daughter, and I also got my period, the first month the same thing happened to me, it is all normal to have an abnormal period at the beggining, tho if it gets more strang and abnormal, u might want to go se a doctor, I hope this helps by!
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Unknown
I am 13 and i have not started i am worried becuse i have started to masterbate and was wondering if i will never get mine but… i have had hair and discrage down there since i was like 9 and like i want to have kids … and i am wooried that my 10 yr old sister will get hers before me and that would be embarrassing so i was wondering if you could help me -unknown
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Ryan
why did you mention masturbating/, what age did you start that, or you saying you just started that?, i would not worry too much, puberty starts at different ages for different people, do not be too concerned, as for masturbation, that is not really part of puberty, but the urges come with puberty obviously, but i read and hear about “masturbation” at like 2 years old….
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Anonymous
Hi I’m 12 and I have my period. I got it early and have kind of been feeling sick. I have been having really saw throats and has just been feeling yuck. Is there something wrong?
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Lori Rustin
Sore throats aren’t usually part of having your period. Have you been checked for strep throat?
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Maddie
There could be something wrong, talk to your mom about it. If you have been using tampons that could be a reason.
-Maddie
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Gabi
Hi! You might have Mono. Please ask your doctor to test you for it.
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Mia
I’m ten years old and have been having cramps, feel very moody lately, have dark but not all the way full hair down there, ever since I was 7 I’ve had strong under arm odor, and have to shave my legs between 3-5 days. I also weigh 85 pounds. Is this normal???
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Cheryl Greene
Hi Mia,
Puberty can start very early for some and still be normal. If you want to see where you are on the developmental timeline, check out Dr. Greene Q&A on Tanner Staging, which is the way doctors categorize the many changes boys’ and girls’ bodies go through during puberty.
I hope that’s helpful, @MsGreene
Co-founder & Executive Producer DrGreene.com, Mom
Note: I answer a lot of questions on DrGreene.com, but I am not a doctor. I am Dr. Greene’s business partner and wife. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Maureen
I am a nurse who is aware of a 7 year old child who has begun menstruating. She is a small child and has no other outward signs of early puberty. She also complains of lower back pain radiating to her abdomen. I have spoken to her mother about having the child evaluated but she says that her pediatrician told her that this is normal. I spoke with the pediatrician to share my concerns about the pain, no signs of precocious puberty and lack of any testing to make sure that there are no hidden issues but was told to call her back when I received my medical degree. Does this sound normal ? It seems like a number of abnormal things could be happening.
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Lori Rustin
Wow, Maureen. As a nurse, doctors really should listen to you. You are there with patients and you see things they don’t. If it was my child, I would get a second opinion.
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Rose
I am 11 i have some hair down there and armpit hair when will my period start ???
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Cheryl Greene
Rose,
Here is a chart that doctors use to determine what stage of development a girl is in. It’s call Tanner Staging. It doesn’t tell you how long it will be between stages, but is an accurate measure of what will happen next in your development.
Best,
@MsGreene
Note: I answer a lot of questions on DrGreene.com, I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, Dr. Greene’s business partner and wife, but I am not Dr. Greene, nor am I a doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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ingrid
I am devastated she is only eight years with breast buds I feel she is going to stay short :{ is there a special class where they can help me explain to her about puberty? I do not want to scare her
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Shayona
I have a 10 year old she already has pubic hair and headache and she was having a lot of cramps and discharge but it stopped yes her breast buds hurt but no period is there something wrong with my daughter please help
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Cheryl Greene
Shayona,
It’s not unusual for early puberty to be in irregular bursts, so this may be normal.
Has your daughter had your yearly physical? If not, this would be a good time.
Best, @MsGreene
Co-founder & Executive Producer DrGreene.com, Mom
Note: I answer a lot of questions on DrGreene.com, I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, Dr. Greene’s business partner, but I am a not doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Sarah
I am eleven to and i have tiny breast buds and had hair down you know where and under my armpits for around a year now. All of my friends have developed quite big breasts, while i am still quite flat chested. I have started to wear padded crop tops to hide my flat chest. Am i going to stay like this for the rest of my life? Im kida scared…
What do?
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Cheryl Greene
Hi Sarah,
Puberty can start very early for some and still be normal, but historically, 11 was still early to experience the changes of puberty.
If you want to see where you are on the developmental time line, check out Dr. Greene Q&A on Tanner Staging, which is the way doctor categorize the many changes boys and girls bodies go through during puberty.
I hope that’s helpful, @MsGreene
Co-founder & Executive Producer DrGreene.com, Mom
Note: I answer a lot of questions on DrGreene.com, but I am not a doctor. I am Dr. Greene’s business partner and wife. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Kat
I’m eleven and my mom was 16 when she started puberty. I have a little bit of hair, but absolutely nothing else and all my friends are starting puberty. Is this normal?
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Cheryl Greene
Kat,
The average age of the start of puberty in girls is very wide. It can be normal at 8, all the way to 15. That means some of your friends are already having their periods while others won’t for several years.
Hope that helps, @MsGreene
Co-founder & Executive Producer DrGreene.com, Mom
Note: I answer a lot of questions on DrGreene.com, I am the co-founder of DrGreene.com, Dr. Greene’s business partner, but I am a not doctor. Please keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Mary Kingsworth
My daughter started growing Pubic hair around the age of 10 and she turned 14 last week.. she started her period when she was about 6 months ago but is only getting it off and on and she is completely flat chested, is this normal?
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Szahara Allen(Pinky)
Hi,I am 10 yrs old and I bleed but it’s really tiny what is it?im confused but I don’t have my period yet..
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Jezleen
I got my period 1.5 years ago I was 9.5 years old I was pretty tall for my age and had to put on more weight before I became underweight.However now whenever we have our health check in school my weight is always increasing or decreasing by around 4 to 5kg. My height is always increasing and I am currently 5 feet if anyone could help me understand what is happening to me it would be great because I can’t understand anything.
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Sunny
Worried father here… my youngest daughter is almost nine but started her period about three months ago. She is as tall as my eldest daughter who is eleven and has developed much earlier than her. The only difference is that my youngest daughter loves milk so we switched her to organic. The concern here is my youngest daughter finished her last period two weeks ago and this morning she has stared again. We feel helpless and the doctors and no help. Any advise or help?
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Alina
If she started at 8 it is precocious puberty.That means it is normal to grow early.Early breast development and tall height for your age are some parts of early development.
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Sandy
Hello my daughter is 8 yrs old. She started her period Thursday 9/29/16.
I feel for her it’s so miserable and so early for her to experience.
I had been preparing ahead of time for it because I wasn’t sure when selecting would actually get it. She didn’t freak out and was really good about learning about it and all the many things that your period comes with.
She has been experiencing nausea and just not feel up to herself. I just pray it gets easier for her. I want to know what I can do to ease her her discomfort. I know midol help a lot of womenergy but I’m not too sure if it would be ok to give her a midol or even half of one.
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Cheryl Greene
Sandy,
Try a heating pad or hot water bottle on her belly. Also, camomile tea can help. Both are often very soothing.
I’m afraid I don’t know if Midol is appropriate at that age, but start with natural remedies first.
Best,
@MsGreene
Co-founder & Executive Producer DrGreene.com, Mom
Note: Not Dr. Greene, not a doctor. Keep that in mind when reading my comments and replies.
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Sa....
Hi I got my period in third grade after that I still don’t have it it’s not bad it’s kind of actually good and I’m 13
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Alina
Nausea is one of the symptoms that a ova is being released.
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christina joseph
hi my daughter is 8 yrs and for the past 1 week she is having severe stomach pain she is evev getting her white discharge is she going to get her first periods as she maintains a good diet how do I prepare her shes jst 8 wht will she understand
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Tracy
Hi Christina
My daughter is nearly 8 and two months ago she felt sick for about a day or two but was never sick. This Sunday evening and all day Monday she had real bad stomachs pains. She doesn’t seem to be developing buds yet. But I’m worried incase she is getting ready. Has ur daughter got breast buds yet. Feel she still a baby to start puberty
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Alina
Look up Just Around the Corner for girls on YouTube and click the video that says just around the corner girls 1.It will tell you about the changes in the girl during puberty.It will also give advice about what to do to help with it.Hopefully that will help her understand and prepare for what she will be going through.
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Kiana
My name is Kiana and I’m 14 and have had all of the things that happen in puberty accept my period. I’m scared is there something wrong with me. I stared puberty when i was 9.
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Cheryl Greene
Hi Kiana,
10% of girls don’t start having their periods until they are in the final stage of puberty, so this can be normal.
At your age, yearly physicals are recommended. It would be great to bring up your concerns at your next physical.
Best,
@MsGreene
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K.W.
My 10 yr old started her period on July 13th and it hasn’t come back. Is this normal?
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Cheryl Greene
This can be normal.
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jess
I need ur help please …. i am 13 years old and had my first period in January however it still hasnt come back 8 months later… Also, i have thick discharge all the time… is there something wrong with me ?? i am very worried and got no one to tell help me
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Cheryl Greene
Hi Jess,
It’s not unusual for there to be a long period between the first period and the next one. But with a thick discharge, it would be wise to have someone check on you. If you can’t talk to a parent, consider the school nurse. The school nurse should be able to help you set up an appointment to see a doctor.
This is probably not an issue, but it’s a good thing to have checked out.
Best,
@MsGreene
Mom, Co-founder & Executive Producer – DrGreene.com
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Lynn
My daughter started her period at the age of nine. She has had her period for a year . She started her period August 16 and then stopped. And restarted on August 28th again. Why is that happening?
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Lynn
She stopped on the 23rd and then restarted on the 28th
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Martha
Because her periods arent regular yet
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Zain
Hello
I am an 11 year old girl I am about 4’8 and I am really thin I started puberty when u was 10 1/2 and I have some armpit hair and I am short for my age and my birthday is. Coming up really soon so I am turning 12 and I haven’t gotten my period and breast isn’t that big when do u think I might get my period cause I heard that when u get ur period u won’t grow taller I really need some advice
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kg
I’m 10 and I started my period at 10 my first sign was breast I was 9 then I saw so hair below called pubic hair then I had armpits hair and discharge and this summer July 15 2016 I saw so dark brown stuff on my panties it was discharge so I went to the bathroom and whipped I saw blood I did not wanted to tell my mom until it got worse so I told her July 16 2016 and she understood so we went shopping for pads and we had a talk I’m still 10 until Oct 16
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Cheryl Greene
Dear kg,
You are very brave to share your story. I was 10 when my periods started and I didn’t want to tell anyone either. Once I did, I felt much better.
I know you are very young to be going through these changes. I’m glad your mom is there for you.
Thanks again for sharing,
@MsGreene
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Sima
I started puberty at 8-ish? Around that age, I was bigger than beyond. Already over 5ft and bigger than the other 8 or 9yrs. I was the same height as my sister and nearly as tall as my dad (but under 5’5). I started breast development around 9 (that’s when I got my period). I wore a bra between the age s of (9?)10-12. I remember borrowing one of my mom’s bras (similar to a training bra) every time I get ready for elementary school. I know this girl who 9 and she is the same as I was. She wore a bra like I did. I know this doesn’t happen to every girl, but I guess I was lucky to hit puberty earlier than the average. My sister hit puberty at a fair time, but never got her period. She’s blind and suffered from octave nerve coloboma . Not sure if that had anything to do with her not getting a period….
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Rose
Hello. I’m 13 and recently got my period. It’s only been around a year after breast development began; I don’t even fit a bra yet. I also never had a growth spurt and am still 4’11. Discharge has been coming for only around two months. I used to be over the fiftieth percentile in height, but now I’m in the tenth. Will I ever get a growth spurt?
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Grace
I’m 9 and i’ve got more hair, I sweat more and i’ve got bigger breasts than most of my friends and i’m a bit worried. I’m also sometimes quite moody.
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Sima
You are not alone. This happen to me before. I started early just like that, but I think it’s pretty normal.
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Emma
Hi,
I am so worried about my daughter who is now 4 and 5 months,having her left breast a bit big as if it is developing.
I am afraid she is having a precocious puberty,and we are in a developing country where I think it cannot even be possible for her to get the required treatment.
Please doctor tell me,will that breast continue growing big or it can go back.If it continues,that means that my daughter is going to have her period like in two or three years,and her stop growing?
Please advice me !I am so worried and I don’t know what to do.
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Barbara
My daughter had that problem at the same age found out it was lavender I stopped using anything containing the lavender and she was fine. All symptoms went away.
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Katana
Hi, I looked for this question and found no answer. I started to bud at the age of six, and had my puberty at the age of nine. I’m highly confused cause I wasent a chubby child and had nothing Wong with me besides having been very strong. My mother was confused also, just one day your child has no bump, and after three days later she already needs a training bra. I was confused also, I was only in second or first grade. By the time i was in third grade i had already wore D bras and quickly when to DD in fith grade. Is their any reason I would have bud before puberty?
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Sofia Racha
I’m a worried mother. My 8yrs old is spotting everyday since last month. She has no sign of puberty. I asked my doctor and she said it’s normal. But everyday can’t be normal. Pls help me.
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El
Hi,
I started my menstral cycle when I was about 10 and a half. I’m 13 now (turned 13 in September) and only 163 cm tall. I weigh about 56 kg.
My Father is around 181-183 cm.
My Mother is about 159 cm.
My mothers mum is about 155cm and her Father is about 170cm.
My fathers mum is 165 cm and his father is 180cm.
Anyways, to the real question here:
Will I grow any taller?
I just really want to be about 167-170 cm. Just 4 more cm to grow!
Do you think I’ll make it before I completely stop growing and what height do you think I’ll grow to?
I’m not quite sure I will grow that much anymore. I had one big growth spurt about 6 months before my mental cycle started and I grew about 10-15 cm (grew to about 157cm).
So, I’ve grown about 6 cm in a period of 2 and a half years (since my mental cycle started.).
I have pretty big feet and hands for my height and my family is known to have small feet and hands, especially my parents.
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Rose
It doesn’t seem like it, but there’s no way to tell for sure. If you don’t reach that height, remember that height doesn’t define a person :)
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Sunita
My daughter will turn 11 on 16th January 2016 . On 12th jan she got her First Period . She Is 145 cm Tall . I am also 150 cm Tall . I am concerned about her growth. Please let me Know if she Would grow further?
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Shayla
Hi,
I want to start off by telling the reader that I am 14 years old, and I am 5 feet. My mom is 5’5 and my father is 5’7. I had started by period when I was only in the 3rd grade, making me 8-9 years old, and during that same year had began to grow armpit hair. I had developed a small amount of breast when I was 7 years old a little bit. When I had gotten my first week of period, I began to notice, as well as my mother had noticed that I was not growing like I was before. During my junior high year (6th grade) , I was only 4’8 and my 7th grade year I was 4’9, I was growing only inches. I had doctors, that even said that I might grow anymore. So now, that I am 5 feet and 14, I need a little bit advice, has to know, will I end up having one of that growth spurt moment, where I am suddenly starting to grow normally again? Or will my growing now take time some time still? I had also join my school tennis team, and have been trying to stay healthy and active as possible, now that I fully understand, that I need to start taking care of body, and bones.
Thank you for reading, and I would be more thankful for some advice. x
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Jenni
Hi,
I’m Jenni and I am 10. I have had puberty since I was 8, started off with breast development then pubic hair now discharge. This is all totally normal so nobody should be worried about their bodies. I’m certainly not! My period signs are there so it’s not long until that happens. My breasts are painf so nobody worry, that’s normal. If you want to find out more about your bodies just search up Puberty. You should ask your parents for anything more private. Thank you for reading and hope this helped.
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Princess Faye
Hi I’m the same age as you. I also have the same symptoms but recently I had my period and I’m still waiting for it to stop… It’s kind of embarrassing to say but it’s true. I wonder if puberty can stop though.
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Alexcia
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Alexcia
Hi
I’m 11 and I’ve been having my period for a year.
I started puberty at 6, am I normal ?
I’ve got breasts of an adult and some boys are fighting over me ( not exactly but they say they want me real bad)
What do I do ?
I’m also a depressed girl .
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Princess Faye
Hi,
I’m only 10 but I’m going through the same thing as you, except the puberty at 6 part. Normally at 11 you can get those kinds of breasts but just remember to wear something like a sports bra to keep it in. (I’m a girl so it’s ok) If you don’t I highly suggest it. About the boy part, your probably pretty in real life and those boys may see that, it’s what they call ‘criss cross love’ so prepare for the battle. Try to lighten up or daydream, play some sports with your friends too.
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Sara Walker
My daughter is a10 year old. She is “mentally” mature for her age. She developed some pubic hairs at about 5 years. She’s developing breast buds that became noticeable, just a few months, ago? She seems to be paying very close attention to them. She seems to, also be very, excited. I, on the other hand have had talks with her on preparation. But, what is or could be, our next step? For example;
I thought about sending her to school with a pad or a liner, just in case, she does start her cycle at school. But, do you think, I should do that?
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Corza
Definitely send a liner or thin pad. My nine year old daughter got her period yesterday. She has breasts and pubic hair so I knew it was coming. I explained about cramps and about listening to her body to understand when it might happen. Yesterday she wore a liner to school because she thought she might get her period and she did. I went out and bought four kinds of pads for her to try so she would have something comfortable. If she hadn’t had something with her it would have been an extremely negative experience. Preparation is always a good thing.
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taylor locklear
i am 12 years old i have a lump on my right breast i have showed my mother the lump but the lump doesnt hurt or anything im just scared that it is something serious like breast cancer my great anut had breast cancer also the lump is close to were my nipple is it feels like a golf ball and its kindly big & i started my period about a year ago i havent had my period in 2 months im so scared should i be worried
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Gloria fletcher
Get to a doctor and get tested!!
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Princess Faye
Please don’t be worried but there is a possibility that you may get breast cancer so I really I MEAN REALLY get a doctor as quick as you can.
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Princess Faye
Sorry I made a mistake
Real one: so I really I MEAN REALLY think that you should get a doctor ASAP
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Jasmine
My daughter turned 8 yrs old, August 10, 2015. The school just called me today, 10/6/2015 to inform me she came to them and told them she was bleeding. The nurse thought maybe she cut herself. My daughter said no, my mom said I will need one of those pad things when it happens. Thank God, I talked to her a few months ago about pads, just in case. She went to her well check up a couple of weeks ago, and I informed her doctor her mood changes/emotions are all over the place lately and she is changing. The doctor recommended American Girl book (the care and keeping of you)
She started wearing a training bra when she was 4 yrs old, the doctor said it was normal for some children to show some signs of chest growth early. This year they got progressively larger and over the summer she started to grow pubic hair. Her doctor projected she will start her cycle next year around school time or shortly after but between 4th or 5th grade. She was wrong. :-(.
I’m so not ready for this to happen to her at such a young age. But it is! I know there is Lupron injections, or Histrelin implant and other medicines that can stop her body from producing hormones, and stop the cycle until she is older. But are there any serious side effects to this with her being 8 yrs of age. Also, I’ve read her growth can stop 2 yrs after her cycle stops (that’s age 10) when 16 yrs of age is the norm. I don’t want this to happen to her if I don’t do anything. But if I do, do something, I don’t want her to have serious side effects.
I’ve just started doing a lot of research, and have reached out to her doctor to discuss other options, but any good sound advice is helpful if anyone has done the shots. My friends say to be excited for her and treat her extra special, but I’m so sad that this is happening to her at such a young age, and she is handling it so well when I talked to her on the phone in the nurses office. It’s hard to be excited right now. I didn’t prepare myself for age 8. Oh by the way: my mom was 14 and I was 9 when I started my cycle. My mom chose not to give me the shot because the doctors told her it messes with the child’s mind. However medicine is more advance now. Has anyone tried the shots? Did it cause any serious side effects? My daughter has also had severe allergies/asthma since she turned 3 months. Seasonal allergies year around and they continue to get worse even with the medicines as she gets older. I will have to find out if there are any drug interactions with her allergy medicine to any of the hormone treatments as well, if I decide to go that route. Thanks for your help.
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Princess Faye
Try to keep watch maybe write it down and wait to see what happens… Keep watch and make sure she doesn’t have her period at that age. In the ages between 10 and 15 she should have her period.
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Sima
I remember when I was 9, I was sitting on the toilet and then discovered some blood inside of my panties. I said “Uh Mommy?” and probably said “There is something wrong…”. I wasn’t freaked out or nothing just slightly scared. That’s when my mom told me I was on my period.
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kit
I have a 8 and a half year old boy and he is getting pubic hair on his testicles. So did my husband at the same age. Should I be concerned and start intervention or leave it be
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Shayla
Hi Kit,
I just wanted to let you know, that if your husband is saying, that he had also began to get pubic hair around the same time, your son has. The it is normal, because it’s in your son’s genes, from the dad’s side. It’s very common for kids to start puberty around the same age that a parent had began as well (there are a few other articles online talking about this topic). Hope this helps :).
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Sophie
Hi, I just started my period and needed help and I don’t want to tell my mum because it was very heavy and never had cramps. It’s just that I had a really bad cold for two days and it felt very sticky down there. I have grown breasts, public hair, but don’t have hair growing out of my arm pits. Btw — I am a 12 year old girl (turning 13 tomorrow) that is very scared. Do I get pregnant when I have my period.
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Cheryl Greene
Hi!
I am not Dr. Greene, but perhaps I can help with advice from a woman.
I started having my periods at age 10. I didn’t want to tell my mother, either. Of course, when I did, she understood perfectly. I very much encourage you to tell your mum.
Starting your periods is a signal that your body is becoming fertile. If you have unprotected sex when you are fertile, you can become pregnant. Additionally, birth control is not 100% effective, so if you are fertile, you might become pregnant even if you are using birth control.
I hope that’s helpful, but it’s only a very small answer to the many questions you’re likely having. If your mum can’t help, you need to find a kind adult that you trust to help guide you through this process.
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Sophie
Thanks I thought I was gonna get pregnant. And I heard that giving birth hurts!
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Princess Faye
Yeah THANK GOODNESS… For the next 10 years I won’t go boy hunting. (I actually never went boy hunting but you know what I mean) I hope that a peck on the cheek won’t cause pregnancy though
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Kendra
It is important to tell your mom that you have started. At your age, it is normal to start your period. Starting your period does give you the ability to get pregnant, but unless you are sexually active, you will not get pregnant.
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Alexis Pollard
My daughter is 8 years has hair, complains for tummy ache, perspiration smell, has pimples. Does that means she will soon have menstrual?
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Alicia mom of 5...
Hi. Absolutely she is near starting. I just dealt with all of those things with my 9 year old and she had this going on for about a year and just the other day she started her period I really figured it would take even longer but she got 1 year from the time she started the hormone bumps,pubic hair,and boobs.. Good luck!
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tiana
Hi I’m 10 and my mom says I might start my period this year do you think I will?
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Lm
Well you probably don’t know when it will happen. I’m 11 and I started it a month after my bday.
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Princess Faye
Yes, I’m the same age as you and I’m still on my period. The truth is it doesn’t actually doesn’t hurt at all and you don’t actually have to stay on the toilet for days
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Leslie
My daughter, who is 9, came to me yesterday afternoon and told me that she is bleeding below. I looked seriously at her and said to not joke with me and if she is we need to get cleaned up. She then denied it. We went to the bathroom and sure enough my daughter has now become a young lady. I told her its normal, she wasnt scared. I went and go the right size pads for her (I was not expecting a 9 yr old to start) I should have seen more of the signs as she started to wear training bras half way of school last year and had hair already growing prior to that. A few months ago she got her first pimple, and her face clearned up nicely! Earlier this week she complained of a sore tummy but nothing else. I will be switching her to a female ped soon so she will be more comfortable talking about girly things. I know its part of life but it feel as if my little girl is leaving me. :( I plan on letting her keep being a 9 yr old !!! Shes so young and still a child. So for those reading this: My daughter started to develop a chest about 7 months ago. Hair I would say a year ago. In the past month her chest has gotten a little bit bigger and has started her monthly.
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Tina
My 8 year old just started this weekend. We knew it was coming but thought there waa at least a year before menses. I’m So worried she will be short like me. I’m only 5’1. I too started towards the end of 9 years old. Dr. Thought she would not fully start until 9-10
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Sonia
Hi my daughter is 7 year old and her breast starting develop. She is very Young in her age. I feel so worried can u suggest me what shall I do to stop her early puberty.
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Melinda Valdez
My 8 yr old has just started discharging a clear thin white mucous. While I’ve been reading that that is normal…what I am alarmed about is that I’ve read that this is indication that she will start her period within a yr. My concern is that she hasn’t even began developing the symptoms of puberty such the development of breasts…nothing other than this..is this a sign she is going to go into puberty and not necessarily get her period?
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Jenny
Hi Dr Greene,
I have a wonderful 9 year old and she is also developing quickly. We have been back and forward to our doctor over the past year with pain in her tummy, she has been complaining of sore breasts with a small lump behind nipple and has started developing pubic hair. Last week she had a sore throat and then developed a pain in center of her chest, which has continued since Friday, we have seen our doctor and he feels that it is all growing and developing pains. I’m very worried. She showed me a lump on right side of pubic bone the size of golf ball this evening, which has since gone down after an hour or so. Is all of this connected?
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Helen Choi
Thank you Dr. Greene. Your message has helped me to understand my child’s emotional state and how I can help to bridge the gap for her from being a child to a woman by listening and to be a friend to talk to.
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Anish
I have a 9 year old daughter. She’s got all of the above signs and more.
Her breast are quite developed. She has pubic hair, a bunch of them, even on her armpits. She already has been through menarche, now she has regular period, once every 28-30 days. She has pimples on her face, more pronounced on her forhead.
These are only physical changes and bodily changes. However, the other issue that I am facing is that she has started hanging around more with boys than girls. And, moreover she likes a boy a year older to her. In fact, have come to know that they hug each other in the store room at school. She likes other boys in the school too.
Being a single father, this has left me very tensed & worried. Her mother left her when she was 4 years old. She doesn’t even remember her mother. I have been taking care of her myself for the last 5 years. We are from India, Asian in origin.
Kindly give me guidance as to how to deal with this. Should I take her to a Child Counselor or Psychologist. Or should I go myself initially.
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sara
Yes take her to a female pediatrician, so she can talk to your daughter and explain about being a girl and growing up. Your daughter will be more comfortable that it is a female doctor, also it would be good for a woman counselor at the school to talk to your daughter and you as well so you can understand what your daughter is going through.
Don’t forget to ask the doctor for some pamphlets on girls and puberty when you take your daughter to the doctor. There is no such thing as too much information. It will help you both understand it more. Also it’s good idea to urge your daughter to visit a counselor to talk about how she feels with her mom being gone. Your daughter needs to open up about what she is feeling. Leaving feelings inside and not expressing them will cause her to be angry. I know you don’t want that. Keep being a great and understanding Dad.
Your friend and mother of 3 daughters ages 15, 11, and 10. SARA.
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Annette
The same thing is happening to my daughter she got her period today this morning and she is very uncomfortable her breast have been a little too big for her age. And she has 2 friends that are girls and the rest are boys
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