Should pre-teens have cell phones? My 10-year-old thinks so.


My 10-year-old daughter wants a cell phone. She wants it bad. So bad that the other night I came home to the note pictured below.

Natasha's treatise, page 1
(Natasha’s treatise, page 1)

Her three older siblings got cell phones in middle school, when they began to routinely go places without us. But Natasha (who just finished 4th grade) wants one now. So she put together a treatise (you can’t tell from the picture, but it was on really big paper) about why she needs one.

The truth is, she doesn’t need one. She is never really far from us on walks or bike rides. While it might be nice to time pickup from swim practice, we’re actually reasonably good at figuring out how long it takes Tash to shower and get dressed (longer than is reasonable + 10 minutes). If we’re wrong, or there’s some sort of emergency, there are phones at the YMCA she can use.

Natasha's treatise, page 2
(Natasha’s treatise, page 2)

This is what I told her the next morning, as she sat on the stool with her arms crossed, scowling at me. And then she burst into tears. “Do you know how hard it is,” she sniffled, “not to have one when all your friends do?”

Of course. The real reason. Cell phones are cool. Tash is all about cool.

According to a 2009 Kaiser Family Foundation report, 31 percent of 8-10-year-olds have cell phones. The numbers have certainly gone up since then. So while I doubt that all of Tash’s friends have a cell phone, I wouldn’t be surprised if a bunch of them do.

So why do I care? We’ve got old phones around the house. We have a family plan, so we’d just have to pay the monthly charge, which isn’t so much.

Here’s why I care. First of all, that same Kaiser report said that the average 7th to 12th grader spends and hour and a half a day texting.

They text during school, even when there are rules against it. They talk and text as they walk (how many times have you had someone on a cell phone walk obliviously in front of your car?). They play games on them, watch TV, or surf the Web. It is a huge distraction. I don’t want Tash distracted like that.

It’s not just the distraction factor.There’s the problem of sexting, in which kids send lewd or suggestive pictures of themselves to each other (which is a felony, as it’s distributing porn). Bullying happens via text.

And now the World Health Organization says that cell phone use is a “possible carcinogen”: the low-level radiation cell phones emit could possibly increase the risk of certain brain tumors. This kind of radiation, if it does damage, does it over years. The earlier you start using a cell phone, the more years of exposure.

We can set rules around her cell phone use, sure (interestingly, very few of the kids in the Kaiser report said that their parents set rules). But these rules are hard to enforce, and it’s hard for me to imagine Tash being careful to hold the phone away from her head.

For some young kids, cell phones truly do improve their health and safety. Kids with chronic and dangerous health problems, like diabetes or bad asthma, can use them to get help quickly. Kids who will be alone for more than brief periods are safer if they can be in touch with a grownup easily. And for various reasons, some families need the ability to be in close contact. In these situations, the benefits outweigh the risks. In Natasha’s situation, they don’t.

I don’t know the right age for giving a child a cell phone. Maybe middle school is too early (more than two-thirds of 11 to 14-year-olds have them). Ultimately, families need to decide what makes sense for them. But as they do, I hope they think about the risks and downsides of cell phones.

We did some serious thinking about those risks and downsides. Sorry, sweetie. You’re not getting one yet.

Published on: September 14, 2011
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Claire McCarthy is a pediatrician and Medical Communications Editor at Children's Hospital Boston. She has been writing about health and parenting for twenty years. She blogs regularly for Thriving, a blog of Children's Hospital Boston.

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Has anyone given one thought to letting our children keep their innocence and remain care free for just that short little time they have for being a child already ? Think about it…. EVERYONE has the same access to your child that you do on that cell phone. The social media sites are not going to be any easier on your child then they are you either. Do you think they are going to play nice because they are young ? Do they need a phone to get hold of you? Why would a child not be with an adult who would already have a phone? We do not live in a safe world where our children are guarded and protected any longer guys….are we fueling it ?

i think that people shouldn’t have one


I think children of the age of 9 and up should have a phone to contact parents and older brothers and sisters. Also by getting one it will teach them resposibilities and learn them how to be careful. Also they will be able to keep in contact with friends which is also very useful.

My 10 year-old thinks if she can’t have a cell phone I shouldn’t either!! I have one for safety reasons, I have a 92 year-old mother and if something happens to her I can always be reached. To us, being “the only one in her class without a phone” isn’t enough reason to let her have one. Plus, we cannot afford it!! Her 2 teen-age sisters, of driving age, have phones, for obvious reasons. But all this one wants is to have it for games and to show off. I akready know where she is at all times (school or lessons) and always pick her up after those activities. I didn’t have a lot of things my friends had growing up and I survived. Sure I wanted those things but I knew my family couldn’t afford them. My 10 year-old knows that, too. Bottom line, I do not think 10 year-olds need phones!!

My kids have cell phones, they are 7 7 and 9 years old. I have installed educational apps and they love it. My boy struggles with English and the apps on his phone really helps.

I’m ten to and I think that we don’t need a screen if front of us to be happy!

True but I really want one

You should SO have a phone at 10,11,or 12. my mom says “you won’t get a smart phone until high-school”. SERIUOSLY!?! anyway , if you really want a phone, than save up the money and they might just let you. it’s all about ‘responsibility’ so do the dishes every once in a while and be “good” and they’ll soften up a bit.

I’m ten and I want one so much.

I am a 12 year old and I can’t text, back when I didn’t have an iPod if you wanted to text you had to get a phone so I practically had the same situation. I personally think that we should be able to have phones. As you said many people already have phones around us. As for the inappropriate talking, parents can just check their child’s phone/ iPod every night and if they find anything they may take away their child’s phone/ iPod. Also, I see your concern with too much time on their phone but you can always set a limit and every once in a while send them outside to play for a while. That is my conclusion if you did not listen to this story I am truly sorry, because that shows how much parents can trust children around my age sometimes.

I’m a year older than you and kinda in the same situation. But we really don’t have a NEED for it. We just want them. Yeah, there are many excuses that you may come up with that are opposed to that statement. But I think that it’s better that you have an iPod than nothing

I agree with you wholeheartedly, I ran the health office in a school which had only grades 4 & 5, pre-k, and Special needs classrooms so I had plenty of talks with parents and kids about cell phones. This is a very heated subject between kids and parents but it is also one where the answer will depend a lot on the maturity of the child. I explained to the parents that a big reason my husband and I wouldn’t be getting our son, who at the time attended middle school in the same district I worked, a cell phone prior to his freshman year in high school because when kids get these things earlier they have nothing majorly important to them left to look forward to until it’s time for their drivers license, so they end up searching for things to get that excited feeling back that they felt when they and their friends spent all that time looking at and planning what cell phone they wanted. Which for some kids leads them into trouble.

I agree, GeordieKin… beautiful, thoughtful, empathetic, strong approach.