After the excitement of birth and bringing home the new baby, it’s not unusual for moms to suddenly feel extreme loneliness in their new roles as parent. After all, taking care of a baby is tiring and stressful, not to mention labor-intensive. The very nature of newborns is that they need hands-on care 24/7, which often doesn’t leave much time for socializing. Add to this the fact that new moms are immersing themselves in motherhood and learning the ropes as they go, and it’s easy to see how this focus can replace opportunities for connecting with others outside the home.
Here are 5 ways to fight loneliness as a new mom
1) Get outside daily – Bundle up baby and go for a walk, even if it’s just around the block. Sit outside on your front porch or in your backyard and enjoy the fresh air. Reconnecting with the outside world will build your spirits and help you feel less alone.
2) Reach out to loved ones – Now’s the time to reach out to those friends, neighbors, and family members who offered to help when you were pregnant. They said they would help with the baby and it’s a good idea to take them up on their offer, if only to have them come over and have a tea with you while you breastfeed, or better yet, help you to get out with the baby.
3) Build a support group – You’re not alone. There are other moms just like you, looking for connections in their neighborhoods. Go online and search local resources related to new parents and attend. You’ll find that you’re not alone and there are others looking to connect.
4) Check local resources – If you’re not up to forming your own group, look to external support groups that are likely already in place. Your local community center, church or library likely have drop-in programs for new parents where you can go to meet others who are navigating new parenthood, just like you.
5) Accept child care help – If your baby’s grandparents, aunts or close friends have offered to babysit, take them up on it. While it may seem daunting or scary leaving your baby for a short while, it’s good for you, and in the long run it will do both of you well.
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