Comments on: The Flip Side of a Child’s Weakness

By: Katharine Louw

Katharine Louw — Wed, 24 Jul 2013 08:47:00 +0000

Hi Rachel, I just wanted to congratulate you on your blogs – they are brilliant. I loved the Hurry up one but this one particularly rings true for me. I remember as a kid being told that I was a
wuss and being emotive wouldn’t get me anywhere – you cry to easily. My parents would get angry with me. Well, at 36 I still cry easily as I feel peoples pain and sadness – when
the news comes on I usually turn it off, I cry in movies and stop to
help older people etc. I’ve had testings proving that I should be working in the care profession because of my empathy levels being so high. What you did for your daughter was a great gift. You embraced her soul. xx

By: Julie Jones

Julie Jones — Fri, 19 Jul 2013 15:28:00 +0000

I agree with you, Amber. If not for some merciful (naïve they are often told) people who would give those who need another chance who NEED someone to help them with more than one ‘chance’

By: Julie Jones

Julie Jones — Fri, 19 Jul 2013 15:26:00 +0000

Parenting to help our children recognize their good qualities yet helping them find balance to succeed in life. I agree with you Michelle.

By: Julie Jones

Julie Jones — Fri, 19 Jul 2013 15:25:00 +0000

I told my child and the many people that I have worked with over the years that finding a balance in your ‘sensitivity’ is key, yet being sensitive is actually a wonderful quality. Not only are the ‘sensitive’ people the ones that often hurt the most easily for themselves, but they are they ones who ‘hurt’ the most easily for others when others are hurt. They are caring, wonderful people who are the best ones to call when you are facing a crisis and need some support. Our culture seems to be very, very negative about that quality and it is almost always seen as a bad thing – “to be sensitive.” Yay for those that are sensitive…and do try to not let their own sensitivity interfere with their wonderful qualities of being kind and helpful to others.

By: Amber Stroyer

Amber Stroyer — Thu, 18 Jul 2013 04:34:00 +0000

i just thought it was cool our names are so similar! Just had to say that! and i totally agree with this post entirely. my daughter is very head strong and “stubborn”, born leader and likes what she likes! some say she bossy, lazy, demanding, etc. but i see a lot of great qualities there! she loves organizing kids on the play ground and orchestrating games. she is very passionate and even though it may be hard to deal with all the emotions sometimes, i know they will be great qualities to have as an adult!

By: Kim

Kim — Mon, 15 Jul 2013 20:16:00 +0000

Charmed, yes. Tough, also yes. Very. I really think we have much less to do with our children’s outcome than we would like to imagine. Not saying we don’t have an influence. I think at the end of the day, we are who we are. The ‘tough’ I’m referring to in my own life is definitely too raw for posting, but I still pick daisies (literally) and count the clouds. I’m not criticizing your choice to be tough. My mom was crazy tough and I believe I’m stronger for it. Just saying, her parenting choices didn’t make my own ‘head in the clouds’ attitude (as an adult) any different than it would be otherwise. But the slow-it-down dreamer in me also doesn’t make me less tough or less of a hard worker or less of anything. Anyway, we all do our best and I think that is the right idea. Parenting is hard and there don’t seem to be any/many right or wrong answers. One day at a time…

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 15 Jul 2013 04:34:00 +0000

What a charmed life you must have led. I can share with you that the many instances in my life which forced me to toughen-up pretty hard and fast, were neither of my creation nor choosing. I wish I had been better prepared for them by my parents. I shan’t be making the same mistake with my own child.

By: Kim

Kim — Mon, 15 Jul 2013 03:15:00 +0000

Thank you. I LOVE this post. Can’t say I believe in God, but I believe in you… and your children… and mine. xx

By: Kim

Kim — Mon, 15 Jul 2013 03:10:00 +0000

and the world will turn…

By: Kim

Kim — Mon, 15 Jul 2013 03:09:00 +0000

The world is as we make it. Perhaps there is no ‘real’ and no ‘truth’. The world unfolds before us as we agree it will be with the people around us at any given time. We create.