When was the last time that you had a therapeutic, hands-on massage? Do you ever give yourself a birthday gift? Or a special treat for no other reason than that you deserve it?
One of the messages I like to share with people I meet, especially other moms, is about filling your vessel. In order to feel good about yourself you need to fill your vessel – you need to give yourself the energy you need to share yourself with others. And one of the best energy sources I can think of is therapeutic massage…right up there with meditation.
Even though my TV and modeling career has taken me in different directions in my life, I’m still a practicing massage therapist for a very selective clientele (my friends and family!) I’ve always been a hands-on healer, probably starting at age 11 or 12. It started when I did a gymnastics class where everyone paired up for an exercise. I was the only one left out, so my partner was the instructor, who was from India. He used an unusual massage technique on my back to loosen my shoulders – it’s a technique I still use today.
The perfect therapeutic massage actually benefits both the giver and the receiver. For the receiver, having a great massage therapist work out the kinks in your neck, body and help you release blocked energy – giving you the benefit of hands-on touch in a safe and open environment – is really important.
I went through massage school before I got into modeling. When I give a massage is a feeling of being grounded in a very deep and real and meaningful way. My goal always is to alleviate stress and help release blockages from the body. In my opinion, there is nothing better than helping someone feel better and see it happen in an hour or hour and half.
A lot of energy moves through me and the individual getting a massage. The connection of the person’s energy with the light I visualize flowing in above my head, is magnificent, even if the individual doesn’t know it’s happening. Your therapist is not there to take your energy. If you feel this may be so, kindly get off the table. I visualize white light coming in from the top of my head flowing through me to the individual on the table. It’s an hour and a half of being at one and being fully and totally present.
For me, as I am sure for other massage therapists, giving a massage is very close to meditation. I have to concentrate on my breath, on the pressure, and on the intent, at the same time offering great boundaries so the client can feel completely secure and completely at ease, allowing them to relax completely.
I don’t know why moms classically put themselves close to the bottom of the priority list. Everyone should be offering mom as much assistance is possible inside and out of the household. If the CEO of the household is too busy to take care of herself, she’s not really going to have the energy to help her family to the fullest.
It’s all about the supply and demand of energy. You need her especially to have as much available to her as possible so she can share her gifts as a good mother with her children, husband, partner, and friends. When I get a massage, I’m giving myself such a gift, one that pays it forward ten fold. And when I’m massaging a woman, I know she is giving herself a great gift. It really is a true act of self care.
If massage is not your thing, try yoga or Pilates or even meditation at home. All these are gifts to yourself, and ones I highly, highly recommend because with the world is so crazy right now, It’ll shine a more positive light on whatever you may be going through leading you to more a life of more abundance.