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“My life will always have dirty dishes.
If this sink can become a place of contemplation,
let me learn constancy here.”
–Gunilla Norris, Being Home
Here’s something that mystifies me: Seeing a drainer full of dry dishes getting piled onto by a layer of wet ones because nobody bothers to put away the original set.
Am I the only one who feels this way?
This is not about blame, mind you. I have my share of quirky habits that I’m sure are just as maddening to my friends and family.
The wet-on-top-of-dry thing is just something that bothers me. To me it’s like taking the clean laundry out of the dryer and throwing it back into the washing machine – again and again– until someone takes a moment to fold the clothes and put them away. It makes no sense.
More to the point, I wonder what the effect would be if everyone on the planet took one minute to consciously tend to one thing. For us in the west maybe it could be as simple as putting away the car keys or the remote control or the reading glasses in the same place every day. Rounding up all the stray cups and glasses from the living room before going to bed. Picking up the dirty clothes off the floor and putting them into the hamper.
Takes what? Less than a minute?
And if that’s still too much to manage, it could be as simple as sliding the chairs back under the table. Or turning out the lights in rooms that no one is using. Closing the drawers ‘til they click shut. Capping the toothpaste tube.
It’s sounds so simple doesn’t it? But if it were that simple, why is it so hard? What’s behind the resistance?
Here’s what I know: When we insert awareness into any ordinary task, and repeat it every day, we create a sense of ease and fluidity that I can only describe as effortless, spacious magic.
As one of my students wrote me once: “Just putting the dental floss back every night in the same place has been MIND BLOWING!! Truly! And has flowed into other areas!”
Are you up for a fun challenge?
We’d love to hear from you!
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I Accept Your Challenge!
I take your challenge (and this is a true confession) I have trouble flossing on a regular basis. By the time bedtime comes around, I'm over the edge, but for the next week I'm going to floss once a day and see if it can become a wonderful habit.
Anyone else ready to take the challenge?
Great reminder!
It's fun and enlightening to try this in relationship too. Every once in a while my husband and I will do a trade - last time he asked me to stop putting double spaces between sentences (as a content management guy, that really bugs him), and I asked him to open the wet bath towel fully before hanging it. Sounds silly, but I smile every time I skip the extra space and every time I see the uncrumpled towel - makes me feel like we're re-committing to the relationship, like we're being deliberately mindful of each other.
Looking forward to trying this with our living space too.
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One Space at a Time
Theresa -- tell your husband I'll give him my "extra space between sentences", too. Maybe we can change the (content management) world, one space at a time.
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Thanks Cheryl!
He'll be thrilled to hear it! Says it's a good way to save space, which saves paper, which saves trees. (Along with printing less, of course!)
I felt like you were talking directly to my daughter