We have come to the end of our week together. How is this possible when we have only just begun?

The main take home lesson is to remember when the chaos of day-to-day life threatens to turn your life into a spinning circle and you start to feel like you have lost yourself in the mix, give yourself permission to enter your space. Let your mind go blank, allow yourself to just be.

Take the time to practice clearing your slate, and be patient with yourself as you allow your Center to once again return to you.

It is amazing how healing even 5 minutes a day in your space can be. 5 minutes out of a day that has 24 hours – you can do this. You can take the time to reconnect with yourself, and in doing so you will find that you are reconnecting with others.

This week we have touched on just one tiny point, but it is a beginning and everyone has to start somewhere so let this be your start. Give yourself permission!

Sunday is Mother’s Day. It would not be right if I did not mention it – but truth be told Mother’s Day is a very painful time for me.  My own mom died several years ago, and to be honest I have been flailing ever since.

I am trying to learn to live without a mother. It is hard.

My own children will need me to be present on Sunday, and for them I will be, smile and all, but in between the visits I know I will be using ‘my’ space a lot.

Like you, I have moments when I cannot find my center and struggle without it.

So as our time together draws to a close let me take a moment to thank you for allowing me to be a part of your week. I hope this week has helped you in starting the journey to finding your own Center and that you will move forward and have a wonderful weekend and a very happy Mother’s Day!

I hope that you took yesterday’s assignment to heart, and started on creating ‘your’ space.

I say started because I have found that over time our spaces change and evolve as time moves forward.

As you attend your space, you will be moved to remove items, bring new items in. Go with it.  This will do your heart good.

Anytime you are in ‘your’ space, take the time to really feel it.

Whenever you are in ‘your’ space leave the stresses and frustrations of the day outside the line of ‘your’ space. Don’t worry they will wait for you.

Allow your mind to go blank, your body to relax. Breath in deeply, exhale slowly. If you find your mind wandering back to the reality of your situation, consciously force your mind to go blank. Let your mind be like a clean slate.

Practice this every time you enter ‘your’ space – with time this will become so natural you will not even think about it.

You will be able to enter, and Just Be.

Today we are going to focus on creating a space where you can sit and just be.

Your space does not have to be anything fancy, nor does it need to be in a room all its own. It can be as simple as a pillow on the floor in the corner of the living room.

1) Have a look around your home – take the time to go into each room and just feel . What room seems to be calling you? This is the area where you will create ‘your’ space.

2) You will need something comfortable to sit on. An easy chair or even just a pillow.

3) Do you like candles? Flowers? Do you have a favorite painting or picture? Do you have a favorite ornament from a time since past that means a lot to you? Arrange these items in your space – on a table or shelf.

Keep it simple to start with.  Over time this space will change along with you.  Don’t stress over perfection – just give yourself permission to be as creative as you need to be.

You will no doubt get questions from your partner or kids about what you are doing. Be as honest as you want to with them – tell them you need a time out spot, and when you are in there it means you are in time out and they are not to bother you. Tell them the corner just needed something. Tell them whatever you want – just be aware you will probably get questions so be prepared with an answer.

If you are not comfortable creating a full space, then go with a shelf in one of the rooms you spend a lot of time in. A Shelf next to the TV perhaps, a side table in your bedroom, a window ledge. These areas can all become ‘your’ space that no one needs to know the reasoning behind. You can work it so that it looks like you are watching TV or looking out the window, when in fact you are visiting ‘your’ space. No one will know, but you. This is perfectly ok.

Give yourself permission!

So you have lost your Center have you? Let’s face it you would not be reading this if you haven’t.  I would like to Congratulate you for taking the first step in regaining that little piece of you which you misplaced so long ago in a time you can no longer remember.

In this ever changing world of ours, loosing ones Center is not all that unusual so don’t feel that you are alone in the quest. You are not!

Misplacing ones Center is not limited to parenting, although that seems to be one of the times when most people notice that their Center is missing in action. Misplacing ones Center can happen at any time in your life – you can be at work and realize that it is missing, it can happen during a conversation with a spouse, family member or friend, it can happen when you are caring for an aging parent, it can happen as you deal with a tragic event in your life.

Misplacing ones Center can and does happen whenever we take our total being and give it to another to help them through their own situations.

Part of the journey to find your center is to realize why it went missing in the first place.

How many times have you heard yourself say the following?

When this baby comes I will be able to… Once the baby is a toddler I will be able to… Once my child is in school I will be able to… Once the kids move out on their own I will be able to… If only I didn’t live alone I would…

Do you see the pattern here? Are you putting off living until tomorrow? As you are living in this moment you are waiting, wishing for the next. Each time you do this your Center moves further away from you, becoming more hidden. The dust is building on that shelf!

When did you first realize that your Center was missing?  Chances are you will not be able to pinpoint the exact moment – or perhaps you will, either way is ok. The point is we are going to work on getting it back!

Go ahead speak it out loud, I am the only one listening, and I won’t tell.

One of the hardest things we have to deal with in parenthood is when we misplace our Center.

As we walk the floor rocking back and forth, comforting the little one in our arms wondering if it is time to call the doctor or if the fever will break on its own. It happens. That little core that is us is put on the shelf.

I will pick it up a bit later we tell ourselves; right now my baby needs me. But later turns into days, then months, and before we know it we forgot where we put it.

We talk about it with our friends, we search on our own and we wonder. What happened to me? Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose?  I don’t know who I am any more. When do I get time for me?

We realize we have misplaced our Center, and even though it is still there sitting on the shelf where we last put it, no matter how hard we look we cannot see it. So we search.

Hello everyone, my name is Gee Gee and I am thrilled to be this week’s perspectives guest blogger on DrGreene.com. Throughout this week I hope to help you gain perspective and help you once again find your Center.