Guest Blogger

Feather Berkower

Feather Berkower

Feather Berkower has been a leader in child sexual abuse prevention since 1985. Using a community-based approach, she has trained over 100,000 schoolchildren, parents, and professionals. Her highly regarded workshop, Parenting Safe Children, empowers adults to keep children safe from sexual abuse. She presents across the country in schools, youth organizations, parenting groups, homes, places of faith, and businesses. Feather makes a difficult topic less scary, and empowers parents and communities to keep children safe.

Parenting Safe Children helped to inspire Off Limits, a parenting book that will change the way you think about keeping kids safe. Off Limits presents easy-to-follow guidelines for making children, homes, and communities off limits to child sexual abusers.

Prior to founding Parenting Safe Children, Feather managed a regional chapter of the Child Assault Prevention Program, which delivers school-based curricula to protect children and teens from bullying and sexual assault.

Feather is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and holds a Master’s of Social Welfare <from the University of California, Berkeley. She conducts media interviews, workshops, and private consultations throughout the United States regarding issues of child sexual abuse and safety.

Website:

www.parentingsafechildren.com/

Blog Posts by Feather Berkower

  • Reporting Behaviors of Concern

    Reporting Behaviors of Concern

    Yesterday we talked about specific behaviors of concern that may tell you that someone is sexually abusing or being abused. Now we’re going to talk about what to do if you see a behavior of concern and/or a child discloses abuse to you. Trust Your Gut and Speak Up Wherever you see behaviors of concern […]

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    Child Sexual Abuse – The Warning Signs

    Adult sexual abusers groom children (and their parents) rather methodically. By paying attention to warning signs, adults can disrupt behaviors of concern. Behaviors of Concern in Adults Pay attention to adults who spend excessive time with children instead of peers, who have a “special” kid friend, and who turn to children for comfort or activities […]

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  • Choosing Safe Caregivers

    Choosing Safe Caregivers

    In most cases of child sexual abuse, the abuser is alone with the child, has authority over the child, and takes advantage of the child’s trust. With this in mind, how can you choose safe authority figures and activities for your child? It starts with screening. Just as you would take the time to vet […]

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  • Courageous Conversations

    Courageous Conversations – Speaking up for Children

    When I started doing prevention education in the 1980’s, the focus was on empowering kids to say “No” should they find themselves in a vulnerable situation. At some point, however, it became clear to me that it was unfair to put this burden on children, when we as adults are the ones responsible for keeping […]

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  • April is Child Abuse Prevention Month

    April is Child Abuse Prevention Month

    April is Child Abuse Prevention month, an excellent opportunity to raise awareness for a silent epidemic that harms our children: child sexual abuse. In the face of this epidemic, I believe we have to confront the facts, speak with caregivers, and respond to behaviors of concern in our homes, schools, daycare, youth programs, and places […]

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    Is Your Child Trying to Tell You Something?

    Children don’t usually tell us how they are feeling in a direct way especially about their worries. Instead, they say things out of context, give clues, and as they get older, test the waters to see how a topic might be received. This means we have to listen extra carefully and inquire, even when the […]

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    Seizing Teachable Moments to Reinforce Body Safety

    Parents often ask me how to talk with children about sexual abuse prevention without scaring them. I recommend teaching kids prevention through body safety. Children provide us with teachable moments each and every day for reinforcing body-safety concepts in an age-appropriate, non-threatening way. Just think about all the questions kids ask from “How does the […]

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  • That's a Funny Book

    How Is Your Child’s School Reducing the Risk of Child Sexual Abuse?

    While summer is in full swing, children will be starting or returning to school in no time. If you have not had a chance to screen your child’s school, preschool, daycare, or activity program for child sexual abuse prevention, there’s no time like the present. We recommend inviting both the school director and teachers onto […]

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    Empowering Your Child to Say “No!”

    It is a parent’s responsibility to keep children safe by safe screening caregivers, but it is also useful to teach children how to deal with difficult situations should someone try to break a body-safety rule. If Somebody Tries to Touch Your Private Parts, Say “No” or “Stop It.” While it’s important to teach children to […]

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    Do Your Children Have Body-Safety Rules?

    We teach children numerous rules for being safe, from blowing on hot soup and using the cross walk to wearing a seat belt and riding with a helmet. But what about personal body safety around touch, private parts, and boundaries? It turns out that children who are knowledgeable about body-safety are not only more confident, […]

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