i don't even know where to begin.... my daughter is now 3 years and 2 months old, exactly one year ago we started potty traing her which at the time I thought was about 2 months past the time she was indicating a readiness for it. The peeing portion went perfectly in about 2 days no problem. But I have been in pooping hell for over a year and I can not find any answer to hep us! It is now even hard for me to remember everything because so many things could be contributing to this! First let me begin by saying that my daughters were running around naked before getting into the tub one night and my then 2 year old pooped on the floor, I did not get upset or freaked out but quickly took her to the toilet where she finished pushing and we all clapped and celebrated and so did she so of course I thought this was fabulous so we began the "official" potty training. Just to also give some history about 2 months before this incident she pooped in the tub and my older daughter flipped out screaming which then caused my 2 year old to freak out as well, I feel this had a major impact on this whole problem that I am in now but don't know for sure. She has been on miralax since we started this process because I never wanted her to feel "pain" from holding her poop so I know it is not the 3d's you have mentioned in other posts. Charts worked briefly, m and m rewards worked for a week or so at the beginning, bribery has worked a bit, putting her back into pull ups did not work because she just leaks everywhere as she did in her underwear too. It is very obvious when she has to go so if we do not "tell her to go potty" then she won't go..... unfortunately this means a lot of tears, a lot of screaming, a lot of rationalizing that ultimately ends in her pooping on the toilet but everyone is exhausted by this on a daily basis. We have tried ignoring the "grinding" that happens on the couch, floor , chair etc and encouraged her to go on her own. I have recently told her she needs to listen to her body because it is talking to her and she says yes mommy I will I promise and yet it still fails. we did have about a 3 week period where she would go in the bathroom and make a poop with out crying about it and it was magnificent! unfortunately she once again has regressed and we are in a horrible place once again. I feel like this is a control issue and nothing else. She has played the whole gamit of things at different times like "I'm afraid" "it hurts" " I don't want you to leave the bathroom" unfortunately all of these issues are addressed and still no consistency. it doesn't hurt.... she is on miralax...... we stay in the bathroom with her and still nothing..... we leave and still nothing. My 8 year old the past few days has gone in with her when I leave because I feel like I will lose it And ta Da, she pushes with her and she goes! Proof to me that it is a control thing. PLEASe help, I really don't know where to go from here and I only feel like each day makes things worse for her. oh, I forgot to mention that in aug 2011 my oldest was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis so yet more poop talks on a daily basis for our household. I am not sure but worry that seeing and hearing us talk about the "blood" for so long has also impacted my 3 year old.
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